Weekly Voice Insights #85 – Practice First. Then Let It Happen

What you've practiced is what you use.

Listening to Ella Fitzgerald sing the same line again and again,

you hear something change each time.

I was editing my Developing Your Authentic Voice with Epictetus reflective journal, when Ella Fitzgerald came on singing Just One of Those Things from her 1963 Paris concert.

What happens for me is I have to stop what I’m doing and listen.

I could analyze what she’s doing. I know enough to hear the technical side of it.

But why?

It’s so natural and integrated that analyzing it would interfere with what I’m hearing.

That’s what gives it that sense of immediacy. It feels like you’re hearing it for the first time, even though it was recorded in 1963.

In practice, I take one element out of the line and work on it by itself. Then test how it responds. If I repeat it enough that it becomes familiar.

Then return to the full phrase.

Once I've decided to make the sound, I just go with it.

If I start thinking about managing it,  I find that I pull myself out of what I am saying.

I might start analyzing while I am actually in the process of communicating. 

I am learning to trust that the things practiced are already there. They come into play on their own when the moment happens.

Ella Fitzgerald could sing that particular line the same way every time, and we would still enjoy it.

In Just One of Those Things, when the line returns, it sounds different each time.

It sounds like it’s happening in the moment, even though the words are the same. The technique is already there, and it’s still being used.

You hear this in how people repeat phrases in meetings.

There are phrases that come up regularly in meetings:

“That’s a significant change.”
“This is a strong result.”
“We need to take a closer look at this.”
“That’s going to have an impact.”

They don’t repeat on a script, but they return often enough that they become familiar.

When those lines aren’t prepared, the words and the delivery drift apart.

You hear the phrase, but it doesn’t reflect what it’s pointing to.

I heard this recently in a meeting. Someone described a group as “really dramatic,” but the way it was said didn’t support the word. The delivery stayed flat.

You can isolate this outside the meeting.

Take one phrase you actually use.

Choose one word that carries the meaning.

Take a breath and set the intention at the same time.

As you say the sentence, let the main vowel of that word last longer.

Then listen back.

You’ll hear when the word and the delivery match, and when they don’t.

Once that’s clear, you don’t have to adjust it in the moment.

When you’ve practiced this, you’ve already worked through different ways of communicating your idea.

Those options are in your body and your ear.

When you’re in the moment, they’re available without you having to think about them.

You use them as you speak.

“Just as the one training the voice does so through the voice, so too, if you wish to grow in steadiness, practice it daily—by doing the thing itself.”
— Based on Discourses 

Here are a few ideas to try:

• What are a few phrases you use regularly in meetings or conversations?
• How many different ways can you say one of those phrases while keeping the words the same?
• After practicing those variations, what do you notice when you use the phrase in a real conversation?

Weekly Voice Insights #84 – When the Tone Sounds Right but Nothing Changes

The gap between what a response signals and what it actually does

Attention determines the response.

“It doesn’t fail because the instruction is difficult.
It fails because the system is not designed to retrieve exact prior outputs deterministically.” -ChatGPT

I’ve been editing my Developing Your Authentic Voice reflection journal based on Epictetus, working week by week through the same structure.

I’m doing that in an ongoing exchange with ChatGPT—refining each section through back-and-forth adjustments until the wording matches what I intend to communicate.

Each entry includes a glossary, an insight, a voice application, and a set of check-ins. When those are complete, the week is locked.

That step was not arbitrary. It was introduced within the process itself as a way to mark a finalized version—so it could be returned to reliably as the thread grows and multiple variations are explored.

The process repeats. The definition of “complete” doesn’t change. The consistency of the process made the inconsistency obvious. And yet, within that consistency, the same pattern kept showing up.

When the step was ignored by my AI helper the response was:

“I missed it.”

It comes across as ownership, as complete, as if the loop has been closed, but nothing in that response tells you what changes next.

In other moments, its response just confirmed what I said:

“Yes, that’s right.”
“That makes sense.”

Again, the tone signals alignment. But the behavior that follows does not reflect a change in execution.

Other times, the response expanded to longer explanations, added context, and rewritten versions of what had already been finalized.

Instead of selecting the agreed version, it adds more explanation.

And occasionally, the response redirects:

“We can proceed from here.”
“You can lock this now.”

This moves the conversation forward without resolving what just happened.

Across all of these, the tone carries signals that feel familiar:
acknowledgment, agreement, effort, direction.

The underlying behavior does not consistently match those signals.

The system uses human language to explain what happened:

“I missed it.”
“I didn’t catch that.”

Those phrases describe memory and intention. The process underneath is neither of those. It is selection.

And that exact pattern shows up in how people speak.

We say:

“I understand.”
“I’ve got it.”
“That makes sense.”

But the next sentence, the next action, the next response—those reveal whether anything actually changed.

What makes this more interesting is where those AI responses come from.
They don’t appear randomly. They are patterned after how people actually respond.

Short acknowledgments. Agreement without change. Longer explanations in place of precision. Moving forward without resolving what just happened.

Those are not artificial behaviors. They are common speaking habits.

When an AI response sounds complete but doesn’t reflect what was already said, it creates a kind of friction, and you begin to question whether you were heard.

The instruction was clear, the step had already been agreed on, and you followed it, but the response doesn’t reflect that agreement.

So the tone suggests alignment, while the actual exchange does not reflect it, and that same pattern shows up in everyday conversation, when someone responds in a way that sounds right but doesn’t actually connect to what was said.

Which means the issue is not just how the system responds, but that the system is reproducing patterns that already exist in how we speak.

In conversation, those patterns come from what was just heard, not from a list of possible responses.

It raises a practical question: is AI listening to what you just said?

Listening is not automatic.

“For what is required for listening? Attention.”
— Discourses, Epictetus

Weekly Insight #83- What Actually Changes When a Voice Sounds Confident

A practical look at how airflow, space, and vowel shape affect clarity and volume.

A new look for Elias :)

The Common Request

In a recent session, a client said he wanted to sound louder and more confident. That’s a common request, and it usually brings up familiar advice—stand taller, speak up, project. Those suggestions can help, but they don’t explain what actually changes in the voice.

So instead of starting with posture or mindset, we started with something more direct: what happens in the body when the sound changes.

Confidence as a Result of Use

Confidence in the voice is not something you generate first, but it can be triggered indirectly. A cue like “speak confidently” may lead someone to adjust their breath, space, or mouth opening without realizing it—similar to how a device can guide the behavior without explaining it. The sound improves, but the mechanism remains hidden.

Without that awareness, the result is difficult to reproduce on demand. What is often labeled as confidence is the outcome of how the voice is used. When those underlying adjustments are recognized, the result can be produced more consistently.

It is easy to assume the improvement came from the cue itself. In practice, the cue may have triggered several changes at once. When those changes are isolated—breath, space, mouth opening—you can test them individually and observe the result. That process allows you to reproduce the sound without depending on the original instruction.

Space and Vowel Formation

One of the first things we looked at was space—specifically, how vowels are formed. The front of the mouth, near the teeth, gives a clear reference point for the hard palate. Further back, the soft palate lifts when you yawn. That lift is not something you force; it happens on its own. But when you notice it, you begin to recognize how additional space affects the sound.

That space is shaped by a few key parts of the vocal tract: the tongue, the lips, the jaw, and the soft palate. Each vowel changes how these parts move. For example, [i] (as in “see”) and [e] (as in “say”) are often felt more forward, with the tongue closer to the teeth. [a] (as in “father”) is the most open vowel, with the jaw released and the tongue lowered. From that open position, [o] (as in “oh”) and [u] (as in “blue”) can be understood as a reshaping of that same space, primarily through lip rounding rather than a major change in tongue height. These are small adjustments you can feel and observe. When they are working together, the vowel becomes clearer and the sound carries more easily.

Using a Siren to Track Consistency Across Pitch

With more internal space, vowels tend to feel more vertical. The tone becomes more consistent, and the sound carries more easily. A simple siren exercise, starting from that yawn sensation, makes this noticeable. As the pitch moves through the lower, middle, and higher parts of the voice, the quality of the sound can remain more even rather than thinning or collapsing.

That consistency is not coming from the yawn sensation alone. As the pitch rises, there is a natural increase in breath pressure. This happens automatically when imitating a siren or calling out—more air is used as the pitch and intensity increase. In more controlled speaking or singing, that same adjustment does not always occur unless it is practiced. Learning to maintain appropriate breath pressure as the pitch changes is what allows the sound to stay continuous instead of weakening in the higher range.

Airflow and Sentence Completion

We also looked at what happens at the end of a sentence. This is where many voices lose clarity. The airflow reduces, the pitch drops, and the sound can fall into vocal fry. Vocal fry occurs when the airflow reduces and the vocal folds shift out of a fully sustained vibration. The sound becomes irregular and less continuous, often described as creaky. You can hear it most clearly at the end of a sentence when the air stops before the thought is finished. There’s nothing inherently wrong with vocal fry, but it is often harder to hear and less defined. If the goal is clarity and strength, that drop in airflow works against it.

A small adjustment changes this: continue the airflow through the last word. When the air continues, the pitch stays supported, and the sound remains audible. The difference is immediate. What is often described as “confidence” is simply the result of finishing the sentence with enough airflow to sustain the sound.

Mouth Opening and Clarity

Another simple factor is how much the mouth is actually opening. When the mouth stays more closed, the sound is reduced. When the vowel is allowed a bit more space, the sound becomes clearer and easier to hear. This is not about exaggeration; it is about allowing the sound to exit without being restricted.

You can test this immediately. Say a short phrase with the mouth more closed, then repeat it with a bit more space on the main vowel of the word—the one that carries the stress. The difference in clarity and volume is noticeable. What often feels like “speaking up” is simply allowing the sound to leave the mouth more freely.

Where Common Tips Fit

This is where common advice fits in. Standing taller, adjusting posture, or changing how you present yourself can all influence the voice. Those cues are useful as entry points. But they work because they affect space, airflow, and alignment—not because they create confidence on their own.

Without understanding what is changing, those tips remain general. With a basic understanding, they become repeatable. You can notice when the mouth is closing, when the airflow drops, or when the pitch falls off at the end of a sentence, and make a small correction.

That process—notice and adjust—is the skill. It does not require a complete overhaul. It requires attention to one or two elements at a time and the willingness to test them.

Producing the Result

A more confident sound is not something you wait to feel. It is something you can produce. When you understand what is changing in the voice, you can return to those adjustments and create the result consistently.

Weekly Voice Insights #82 - Important Words Need Time 

“Good news” can sometimes arrive without sounding like good news.

Give the vowel time. The meaning will follow.

A recent team update opened with the phrase “big news.” The information itself was useful and clearly organized, yet the moment meant to signal importance passed almost unnoticed. The voice continued at the same pitch and pace as the surrounding sentences.

Nothing in the sound of the voice gave the listener a reason to recognize that the message had shifted in weight. The words themselves were correct and the meaning was clear, yet the listener had very little time to register the importance of what had just been said.

Important words often need only a small amount of additional time — a vowel that lasts slightly longer, or a moment before continuing the sentence — just enough space for the listener to recognize that something meaningful has occurred.

Another detail appears even earlier, before the first word is spoken.

The listener begins taking in the speaker before the first word is spoken. Breath, posture, and the visible readiness of the face appear before the sentence begins, and that brief moment often determines whether the message will carry weight.

If the thought has not settled before speaking begins, the sentence may begin without conveying its importance even when the vocabulary suggests importance.

Many updates also rely on recurring language. Teams hear the same buzzwords repeatedly as projects move forward — words such as “significant,” “strategic,” “transformative,” “priority,” or “impactful.”

Because these expressions appear so frequently, they often settle into habitual memory, and the communicator already knows the sentence before it is spoken.

Without renewing the intention behind the words, the phrase can become automatic. The words move past the listener without leaving much impression.

I encounter a similar situation when singing Germont’s aria in Verdi’s La Traviata. In that passage the character repeatedly speaks about returning to Provence — the sea, the sun, the countryside — and the same images appear several times.

Because the text returns again and again, it would be easy for the phrase to rely entirely on memory. The rhythm is familiar, the words are known, and the next line is predictable.

Yet each time those words appear, the phrase must reconnect to breath and vowel as if the thought has just occurred. If the singer simply repeats the line from memory, the notes may be correct and the words may be clear, but the phrase loses the sense that it is being meant in that moment.

Communication works the same way. When someone says “this is an important update” or “this is good news,” the vocabulary alone does not carry the message.

The thought must be renewed before the sentence begins. Otherwise the sentence may be accurate, but the words will pass by the listener without leaving much impression.

Important words do not require extra volume or dramatic delivery. They require time. When the thought behind the phrase is renewed, the voice naturally gives the listener space to recognize what matters.

“Let your speech be simple and straightforward.”— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 8.30

Weekly Voice Insights #81-Breaking Monotone Without Overacting

Using Breath, Pitch, and Duration to Create Audible Hierarchy

Grateful for another year to practice.

In professional settings, monotone delivery often emerges, especially during presentations supported by notes. When a speaker stands at a lectern with notes in hand, the temptation to read directly from them is strong. The eyes stay on the page, and the voice begins to follow the text rather than the thought.

As that happens, attention shifts away from how breath is being used. The exhale becomes automatic rather than deliberate. Airflow continues, but it is not actively managed to support hierarchy. The tone carries information, yet the natural variation in pitch and color begins to reduce. Important words and minor details start to sound similar, not because the speaker lacks range, but because that range is not being consciously engaged.

When I was teaching at a university, I would often hear students describe courses where the professor simply read from lecture notes. After a while, they said they could no longer concentrate on what the professor was saying. The material itself may have been solid, but without vocal hierarchy, everything blended together.

A steady tone often reflects an effort to remain controlled and ensure that the content is delivered clearly. When a speaker announces something significant but pitch and duration do not change, the statement carries no more weight than the surrounding sentences.

The more I work with professionals across business and leadership settings, the more clearly I see four recurring elements at play: Intention, Breath, Tone, and Connection. I did not begin with those as branded categories; they emerged over time as practical ways to describe what I consistently observe.

Intention determines hierarchy. Before speaking, a speaker must decide what matters in the sentence. If that internal decision has not been made, the voice tends to level out.

Breath structures thought. One idea per breath allows each concept to register. When multiple ideas are delivered on a single exhale, duration compresses and pitch variation decreases.

Tone makes hierarchy audible. Emphasis appears through slight pitch shifts and slightly increased duration on key words. When a word carries significance, the vowel receives enough time to complete before closing into the consonant. That additional duration allows the listener to register importance without increased volume.

Connection begins before the first word. The inhale and moment of readiness establish orientation. Speech that begins without that preparation can feel as though it has started midstream.

Pitch awareness is frequently the missing component because most people do not hear their own default range clearly. One reliable way to locate it is through a directions exercise. Ask someone to explain how to complete a simple task or how to get from one location to another. When giving directions, the mind focuses on sequence and clarity. The voice often settles into its natural explaining center. It moves enough to guide the listener.  When that same person delivers a formal message, however, the range often becomes more uniform. This is usually unconscious. The speaker attempts to remain controlled, and control becomes consistency.

In the Discourses, Epictetus observes, “It is impossible for a person to learn what he thinks he already knows.” Speech often falls into that category. Because we speak every day, we assume mastery. Isolating elements such as breath allocation, vowel duration, or pitch center can feel unnecessary at first.

Speaking patterns are procedural. They have been repeated for years. When you alter one element — extending a vowel, shifting pitch slightly upward, separating ideas by breath — the adjustment can feel unfamiliar even when it sounds natural to the listener.

When I break in a new pair of boots, they often feel stiff at first. I notice them. My stride adjusts slightly. With repetition, the material softens and conforms to the way I move. If, after walking in them, they continue to resist, I know they are not the right pair. Vocal adjustments operate in the same way. Practice determines whether a change integrates naturally or remains forced. Useful adjustments disappear into the voice over time. They no longer feel added; they become available.

The next time you share important information, identify one word that carries genuine weight. Allow the vowel to complete before closing into the consonant. Let the pitch shift slightly. Give the sentence room to register before moving on. Over time, these small adjustments create audible hierarchy without exaggeration.

Monotone delivery is rarely a lack of capacity. It is usually unused range that has become habitual. Awareness, structure, and repetition make that range accessible again.

Weekly Voice Insights #80 - The Word That Gets Away

From habit to intention.

Slow the vowel. See what changes.

Last week I wrote about the moment of trigger — that instant when something unsettles you and the impulse to respond quickly rises. The practice was simple: pause, take deliberate breaths, and choose your response rather than reacting automatically.

This week I want to look more closely at what happens inside the sentence itself.

In speech, meaning depends on the relative length of stressed syllables. Important words are typically longer than the surrounding unstressed words. That contrast gives the sentence structure.

When speed increases, that contrast decreases.

Most people do not notice this because they are focused on content, not on how long each vowel is sustained. Under pressure or excitement, consonants tend to arrive early. The vowel then receives less duration. Once the consonant closes the vowel, the sound ends. Because pitch rides on the vowel, shortening the vowel shortens the pitch. The word carries less prominence.

This is called early consonant closure.

When the key word in a sentence is rushed, what you often hear is premature placement of the consonant. The stressed vowel is shortened. The duration advantage that signals importance is reduced.

The sentence may still be grammatically correct — subject, verb, object remain intact — but the relative prominence — the extra time and pitch — of the stressed word is reduced.

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Why We Rush the Important Word

It is common to rush the word that carries the most weight in a sentence.

Sometimes that happens because the speaker feels excited and is already thinking ahead. Sometimes the word carries pressure — identity, authority, responsibility — and the nervous system accelerates around what feels significant.

In both cases, the vowel shortens.

Energy increases speed. Speed brings the consonant forward. When the consonant arrives earlier than intended, the vowel receives less duration than the speaker may realize.

Lengthening the vowel intentionally can feel artificial at first. Many speakers are accustomed to mild compression in connected speech. Restoring duration can feel exaggerated internally. In practice, a small extension usually sounds proportionate and steady to the listener.

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Diagnostic: Record and Mark the Sentence

Record yourself describing something important — your role, a project, a boundary, or a decision.

Transcribe one sentence exactly as spoken. Circle the word that carries the decision or the identity.

Now listen specifically for two things:

• Did the stressed vowel in that word receive less duration than surrounding words?

• Did the consonant close the word before the vowel felt complete?

You may also notice that more than one idea appears on a single breath. When breath runs short, duration disappears first. The key word weakens.

This diagnostic makes vowel timing visible.

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Diagnostic: Duration Contrast

Choose a short sentence.

Say it once at your normal speaking speed.

Say it again, deliberately lengthening every vowel. This exaggeration expands your sense of duration range and allows you to hear where your natural speech sits within it.

Say it a third time, lengthening only the stressed vowel of the key word.

Finally, return to a natural speed while maintaining slightly more duration on that vowel.

This is an exploration of contrast. You are not trying to slow your speech dramatically. You are establishing awareness of how duration can vary.

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Rehearsal: Extend the Stressed Vowel by 10–15%

Select the key word in your sentence.

Increase the duration of its stressed vowel by approximately 10–15%. Do not delay the entire sentence. Do not add extra volume. Maintain natural pitch movement and airflow.

The goal is to allow the vowel to receive its full intended duration before the consonant closes it.

For example:

“Friday.”

If the final consonant arrives early, the vowel shortens and the word passes quickly. Allowing the vowel to sustain slightly before placing the final consonant preserves the pitch and duration that signal importance.

Even a small extension changes how the word lands.

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Rehearsal: Isolate and Reinsert

Say the key word alone first.

“Friday.”
“Data.”
“Agreement.”

Notice whether you allow the vowel its intended duration.

Then place the word back into the sentence, maintaining the same timing.

Isolating the word builds awareness of vowel length. Reinserting it restores proportional contrast inside the full phrase.

A brief demonstration of the sequences described above can be viewed here.
https://youtube.com/shorts/zDJ2c2RW2ZM

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Speech structure depends on contrast. Stressed vowels must be longer than surrounding syllables. When that contrast shrinks, sentences feel rushed even if the content remains unchanged.

Breath provides airflow. Consonant placement determines when the vowel ends.

This week, focus on one sentence of your choice. Record it. Listen for early consonant closure. Restore duration to the stressed vowel. Notice how little extension is required to change the weight of the word.

Emphasis lives in the vowel.

Consonants shape the word. The vowel carries the voice — its duration, pitch, and tonal color.

Allow the vowel to receive its full intended duration.

Weekly Voice Insights #79-Before You Lead Others 

Noticing the Moment Between Perception and Tone

Between perception and tone, there is a brief interval. Most of leadership happens there.

In a recent article, Anna Rosdahl writes about Stoic discipline in leadership and includes a simple instruction:

“When something triggers you: take a breath, count to three, and ask yourself which response aligns with your values.”

You can read her full article, How a Stoic Mindset Can Strengthen Leadership in a Complex World, here: https://www.mannaz.com/en/articles/leaders-teams/how-a-stoic-mindset-can-strengthen-leadership-in-a-complex-world/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

It is practical guidance. Pause before responding.

I would like to extend that idea into the body, specifically into the transition from breath to tone.

Recently, I was walking on a winter path that I use regularly. I walk to a certain point, turn around, and return along the same route. As I approached another person, I noticed that just before I reached them, they turned completely away from me. Immediately after I passed, they turned back.

That is the observable sequence.

What followed happened internally. Without deciding to, I took a sharp intake of air. The body reacted before language formed. No words were spoken, but the system prepared as if they might be.

And then the narrative began.

Was that intentional?
Did they see me?
Was that avoidance?

I carried that line of thinking for a significant portion of the return walk.

When I encountered the same person again on my way back, I said hello. They said hello in return. There was no sign of hostility. The interpretation I had constructed did not match the interaction that followed.

The first reaction occurred before analysis. The sharp inhale came immediately after the visual stimulus. Emotional stimulus often produces a quick intake of air and a readiness for speech. Even when no words are spoken, the vocal system mobilizes as breath adjusts and pressure begins to build in preparation for sound.

There is usually a small interval between perception and phonation. That interval may feel shorter than it actually is.

In German, the word for “moment” is augenblick, literally “the blink of an eye.” I have sung that word in countless poems. It always carries the sense of something fleeting, gone as soon as it appears.

By the time speech begins, tone has already been influenced by the breath that prepared it.

The inhale was not chosen. The story that followed was.

What I had influence over was not the initial breath response, but the duration of the interpretation that followed. I could not know what the other person intended. I could observe my own reaction and decide whether to continue reinforcing it.

Epictetus reminds us that we are disturbed not by events themselves, but by the judgments we form about them. The event on that path was straightforward. A person turned away. The disturbance arose in the interpretation that followed.

At that point, I remembered the framework I often describe with the acronym STOIC: Stop. Take three breaths. Observe without judgment. Interpret the story you are telling yourself. Choose how to act. The steps are not complicated. The difficulty lies in recalling them when the body has already begun reacting.

In professional settings, similar sequences unfold more quickly and with greater consequence. A brief perception registers, the body prepares, and tone follows. The interpretation may be subtle, but it travels through the interaction that follows.

In many professional communities, people know their material well and prepare their content thoroughly. They refine slides, arguments, and frameworks. What is less frequently examined is the physical state from which that content is delivered. Experienced professionals often trust their expertise, and that trust is appropriate. At the same time, the breath, pace, and vowel onset that carry that expertise are rarely observed with the same care.

Rosdahl’s suggestion to take a breath is not simply about slowing down. It involves interrupting the physiological cascade that begins with reaction and ends in tone. When you notice the sharp inhale, you have identified the earliest marker of response. Allowing the breath to complete and the exhale to release before speaking creates space for discernment.

When a line falters on stage, the silence that follows may measure only seconds. Internally, it can feel much longer. A similar distortion occurs during moments of irritation or perceived slight. The interval feels urgent. In reality, there is space to let the breath settle.

Leadership discipline begins at that threshold. It begins before phonation, in the breath that prepares it. By noticing the breath before tone, you reduce the likelihood that a passing interpretation will become an enduring vocal signal.

The interval is brief. The consequence is not.